Even the angels don’t get this; this gift us for us.
Find a man and a woman, wrap them in a vow, tank them up with passion, and set them loose on the world.
Marriage, this sacrament of divine opportunity, this holy favour, is the artful design through which God propels forth life, abundance, creativity and blessing into the world.
Our marriages are not just cardboard opportunities to get two-for-one rent, have a reliable movie buddy on Friday nights or rally a convenient person to help with the dishes, though those are some perks that come with the territory.
One of the reasons marriage exists is to magnify the Kingdom of God on this earth. And the Kingdom of God sparks with healing life, infinite potential, creative dynamite and an ever-gushing love! The beauty, wholeness, sweetness and goodness of God’s Kingdom cannot be overstated, it absolutely bursts with passion and gentleness.
Yet, if we allow marriage to fall into the doldrums of uninspired routine, superficial pleasure seeking, or convenience-oriented life together, we run the risk of missing the vast potential of this magnificent union.
Marriage is a gift from God!
Kindling two hearts together over years is a great mystery of deep and committed grace.
It’s relatively easy to live annoyed, frustrated, tolerant and selfish. Alternatively, it is holy work to live expansively towards another person; to surrender, sacrifice, uplift and encourage, even in the face of everyday human-ness, dirty socks and bed-heads.
Marriage is a spark that sets the world on fire. Two knit hearts, committed to blessing the world from a posture of partnership and grace, create ripple effects that are boundless.
Your lover is God’s gift to you.
Within your marriage God has hidden treasures for you to mine for the rest of your life together. He has planted seeds of possibilities and drawn the etchings of dreams in the fabric of your life together that will only be realized as you step out into the greater life God has for you, as you love each other on the journey, and move beyond the petty resistance of distractions on the physical plane.
You get to call out the beauty, the uniqueness, the treasure in one whole other person in this life. Don’t let the opportunity slide through your fingers. Watching movies about actors’ fake romantic flings has got nothing on the ecstasy of calling out the magnificence of your soul mate.
Flat, uninspired, drained marriage relationships are not God’s plan for us. Marital love is not the shallow stuff of fairy tales and movie endings, it is the raw reality of soul-mesh and heart-impact, realized in the grit of moment-by-moment life together. God designed marriage to set us free, to overload us with love and opportunity and excitement with another one of his precious children.
And, as if it could get better, but it does… God literally knits the seeds of us together and makes little ones out of our love. This alone is a miracle worthy of our reverence and excitement; the fact that the secret place where vulnerability and passion meet can establish eternal souls is not tame.
This is radical stuff!
Passion, the tender embrace of a ravishing intimacy only known with one other, is a gift in this life, one to be stewarded and guarded, embraced and celebrated!
The enemy will keep trying to rob us of this sacred gift, but we will not be wooed by his empty, plastic promises. All that glitter reeks of a lie. Real love-romance-passion dwells at home, in a house where Legos litter the floor and dishes fill the sink. Married love sinks into the bed at night together, tucks in between arms and legs and warm, familiar skin and knows this is a gift from God.
Treasure your love.
Ben and I have a little phrase that we whisper to each other regularly, often in the throws of little-kid chaos, “It just keeps getting better and better.”
And it does.
My friends, it’s time for our marriages to fly, to take the world by storm, and paint a dynamic new picture of heaven’s passion for the earth!